By David DeAngelo
You've met a woman you think might be “The One” but she tells you that she's not feeling anything “romantic” with you. Learn the one secret to what it takes to have her “feel it” for you and what to AVOID doing, so you're not stuck in the “friend zone” over and over with exceptional women.
***Question From A Reader***
I'm considering investing in your program, but I have a question for you before I do… I think I've met “the one,” but I'm having trouble making her realize this. I've been pursuing her for about five months… and I get the sense that she's very guarded about relationships. She's *very* goal oriented (which is one of the many things I love about her, BTW), and therefore very busy, and - I suspect - she's been burned in the past, relationship wise. At any rate, on a couple of occasions, it felt to me as if things were moving forward, and then she backpedaled; perhaps she "got spooked," and took a big step back to protect herself. Most recently, we were out for the first time since she finished school, and - insofar as I was able to determine, I was getting the green light all night: at a movie, I slipped my arm around her and she leaned in, resting her head on my shoulder; later, we were at a club for a band, and when we were ready to leave, she reached across the table and held my hand for a while; on the way back to the car, it was pretty chilly, and when she complained about the chill, I stepped over and hugged her. She responded by stepping into it: she pressed her face hard into my shoulder, and stepped into full body to body contact - hip to hip, shoulder to shoulder and everything in between. When we got back to her place, I moved to kiss her and she shied away such that it would have been *extremely* awkward for me to actually do so.
At any rate, we've gotten together since (in fact, I offered to cook dinner for her, and she somehow maneuvered it around such that I was *her* guest, and she cooked for me) and we talked a while. She specifically said that she thought the relationship could've evolved into something romantic, but that it hasn't, and she wasn't sure why. At this moment, she says she doesn't believe it will. We remain *very* close friends, but I still believe she's the one, and I've told her that I'm still going to pursue this, and she's keen on still spending time together (for her, for now, as close friends).
My question is this: do you believe your program can aid me in turning her around on this? If so, why?
OK, sit down for this.
Hold on to something tight because I'm going to yell at you for your own damn good...
You can't CONVINCE her to feel it by chasing her around and telling her how you “feel” about her.
YOU ARE TOTALLY MISSING WHAT'S GOING ON!
THIS WOMAN ACTUALLY LIKES YOU, AND YOU'RE SCREWING IT ALL UP BY ACTING LIKE A NEEDY WUSS BAG!
At the very beginning of your email, you said something that basically telegraphed EXACTLY what was going on here...
You said, “...I think I've met “the one,” but I'm having trouble making her realize this. I've been pursuing her for about five months...”
You're having trouble making her REALIZE this?
You've been PURSUING her?
Do you assume that at some point within the NEXT five months that she's going to wake up one day and feel a powerful ATTRACTION for you because you like to chase her around and tell her how you feel about her?
Normally I'd make fun of you here, and tell you that you don't get it... blah blah blah.
But for some reason I feel like I just have to lay things out for you directly.
Look, man... the reason why she's telling you that she “doesn't know why it hasn't evolved into something romantic” is that she doesn't FEEL IT.
She doesn't FEEL IT.
SHE DOESN'T FEEL IT!
She doesn't feel ATTRACTION for you.
And you can't CONVINCE her to feel it by chasing her around and telling her how you “feel” about her.
Attraction, as I always say, ISN'T A CHOICE.
You're acting like most guys who think things like: “If she only knew how I felt about her, she'd feel the same way” and “If I keep pursuing her, she'll eventually see how much I love her” etc.
Well guess what?
AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN, HOMEY.
What you need to do is a get a world-class education on how ATTRACTION works for a woman.
That's the only thing that'll pull you out of the nose-dive in your right now (besides stop spending so much time with her, telling her how you feel and not dating other women… but I digress…)
The best place to get this education?
My eBook Double Your Dating.
It is the single best source I know of to learn how to help a woman feel ATTRACTION for you - and how not to BLOW IT.
Hey, I didn't know all that stuff either… but I took the time to learn and I suggest you do the same. If this girl is really that important to you right now, you owe it to her and to yourself to get your act together.
But do it fast, because if she's really that great, you're wasting time and another dude who is actually good at this attraction stuff is going to take your place.